If I Wasn't Gothic & Lolita

April 07, 2019

Recently I was asked what fashion I would wear if I wasn't a gothic Lolita or dark fashion enthusiast. It actually stopped me for a moment. For a second, I didn't entirely understand what I was being asked. If I wasn't a gothic Lolita lifestyler. It didn't make sense to me.

Dark lifestyle is a pretty significant part of my identity. It's not the whole of my identity, obviously, but it makes up a great part of it. My identity is made up of personality type, beliefs and values, interests and hobbies, priorities, relationships, environment, and upbringing. The point is, even though it's not everything, I've built a large part of my life around my interest in dark hobbies, fashion, aesthetics, art etc. Taking it away feels like that would be a lie.

Who would I be if I didn't find Lolita, and if I didn't love spooky things? Maybe who I was in high school, scrambling to find some identity and coming up short. Cliché as it may sound, I don't think I would be anything like myself if I didn't have my macabre indulgences. It just wouldn't be me.

How does the thought of switching fashions make you feel personally? Does it offend your identity, or could you find a substitute fairly easily? I'd love others to weigh in; tell me I'm not alone!